We went shopping for dresses, and it was relatively painless because she was pretty reasonable, but also due to the excellent coaching from Courtney's friend Rebecca who has been both a bride and a sister of a bride. There are some stock answers that you are to repeat NO MATTER WHAT. For example:
Bride: How does this dress make me look?
You: You look beautiful
Bride: Does it make me look fat?
You: You look beautiful
Bride: Do you like it more than the other one?
You: You look beautiful
Bride: I will never find anything that doesn't make me look fat!
You: It is your special day, you will look beautiful
Bride: Do you like this one more than the other one?
You: I am sure you are making the right decision
Bride: Is this the right shade of white?
You: You look beautiful
You get the idea. The problem is that I am a big believer in the "tell the truth faster" school of thought, especially when dealing with THOUSANDS OF CHOICES. So, when she sent a picture of a dress that made the model look fat, why fart around with not just saying that and crossing it off the list.
But, when you go to actually try them on it is a different story. I agreed to the Rebecca Forman Method of Bridal Attire Feedback listed above. Everything was going fine until I started deviating from the script. Courtney, my mom and Ashley's MOH Madelyn were with on this shopping adventure and Ashley does not want to be placated, so she wanted us to rank the dresses Iron Chef style based on design, color and fit - and give each one a ranking of 1-10. Courtney was the secretary. Ashley wanted us to vote out loud, but I totally decline that - I believe this voting should be anonymous and silent if you want to get to real results.
On the first dress, Courtney voted 10. She asked for my vote and I said it had to be anonymous so I wanted for Ashley to go change into a new dress. I then whispered that I thought it was only a 5. Courtney put me down for a 10 anyway. She was staying "on message".
So, ultimately after 4 dresses, there was one that was a good choice but then I opened my big mouth and said that she didn't have to pick a dress the first hour that she was shopping for one. She could take some time and look around, the wedding isn't even until October.
Courtney has always looked like Drew Barrymore. Remind me to find some pictures showing this later. Anyway, at that moment, she really most resembled Drew in "Firestarter". If she had that special skill I would be in the burn unit right now.
All is well that ends well however, because she found a dress somewhere else that she really loves, you can see from the look on her face that it is perfect. I am not posting a picture right now, because it isn't time yet, but I assure you it doesn't look like this:
or this:
PS - if you
get this veil, you are dressing like a stripper at your own wedding
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